Describe the last difficult “goodbye” you said.
Hmm, well, this is an unfortunately easy one for me to answer.
I said goodbye to my mom on 12/4/2020. Correction, 12/2, 12/3, and 12/4. I didn’t get the memo that death isn’t quick and peaceful like in the movies. You heard it here; it’s NOT.
On 12/2, I sat on a loveseat in my family room, watching my mother “sleep” in her bed. I talked about our good times together, especially our vacations at the shore with my kids and how much fun we had shell hunting and playing in the sand. I thanked her for being such a good mom for so long.
On 12/3, while sitting on that same loveseat, mom seemed very agitated, not peaceful. At one point, she screamed, “MOM, MOM!” with desperation so loud my daughter flew down the steps thinking it was me screaming. This was shocking because my mother was an orphan who had never seen so much as a photo of her own mother. It took us a minute to absorb what had just happened, and without saying a word, I returned to staring at the person I loved the longest, and my daughter returned to her work.
Have you ever cried so much you started wondering how many tears a human being has in their body? This was the theme of day 3. At 4:00 p.m. on 12/4/202, the tears of sorrow were replaced with relief for my mother and me.
In hindsight, I recognize that all the circumstances leading up to that goodbye happened for my benefit. However, the longevity of her life filled those final days with all sorts of emotions. As I was saying goodbye to a mother, I was fortunate enough to have, for 50-plus years, my mother had to leave this world at 94 to say hello to hers.
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I lost my Mom in 2021 and totally understand the angst of letting go that comes simultaneously with the relief that a loved one’s struggle is over. I hope that wherever she is, she is in the arms of her Mom. Beautiful post❤️
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Sorry for your loss ❤ I appreciate your beautiful response.
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Wow! I had to re-read that last bit to make sure I read it right. It kind of took my breath away. I lost my Mom when I was 12. The prospect of getting to meet her again … it takes my breath away.
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There is not a doubt in my mind that you will ❤
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I lost my father in 1999. He was the first one to go after battling cancer for a month. I took care of him at the hospital. It was difficult when he finally left us. It took a year for me to recover. Virtual hug! 🌹
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Thank you! Hugs to you as well. I don’t think I gave myself time to recover.
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You’re right, death is never like what we see in the movies. My husband of twenty-two years died of a stroke just as we were sitting down to dinner. I’ll always regret the fact that I didn’t get a chance to say goodbye, but I think he knew how much I loved him. I’m glad you got a chance to say everything you needed to your Mom. I’m sorry for your loss. Stay close to those you love, and take care of yourself.
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I’m sorry you had to endure that experience. My lesson is to not wait to say what needs to be said. I need to improve.
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Touch wood. Everyone is with me in the family right now. Prayers are always helpful.
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Beautiful. Soo sorry for your loss; I feel you have a small sense of peace since your mother founds hers. God is good! Take care!
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Thank you, yes, I do. It was remarkable.
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So sorry for your loss ❤❤❤ I hope you doing well
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I am well, thank you ❤
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I have also cried that many tears. But rest easy, ‘cause our souls they are made to last 💔❤️🩹❤️
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Thank you ❤
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I lost my mother on 07.07.2008 after seven years I lost my grandmother on 08.08.2015. Then I had a miscarriage on 06.06.2017 and another one on 03.03.2020. And another one on 06.06.2020. I also lost my newborn on 18.04.2021 – he was born on 18.03.2021 (Yes, today he would turn 2). All those repetitive dates are scarry for me, and i shake each time my phone rings on a repetitive day/month.
But, in between this dates I had a lots of beautiful moments, that whiped away my endless tears. May God rest in peace all our dears one. One day we all be togheter!
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I’m so sorry to hear of those great losses in your life, but I LOVE your recognition of all the goodness on the dates in between. That is a beautiful way to heal ❤
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